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  • Writer's pictureMarcy Kocher

It Builds Character

Updated: Jun 17, 2021

There's nothing wrong with good, old-fashioned hard work.

It builds character, right?


Just like everything else, it depends on what is motivating us.

We must always ask ourselves if we are being motivated by love or by fear?

If we are motivated by love, we will see work as something we do to serve and support ourselves and others, and we will enjoy it and our lives.

But if we are motivated by fear, we will see work as a way to earn or prove our worthiness and value.

That's a lot of pressure.

Constant pressure leads to chronic stress, and chronic stress leads to mental and physical illness.

Notice, it isn't the work that leads to the stress; it's the way we think about work.

What are we making our work mean about us?

Is it a means to an end, or is it part of our identity?

What if you lost your job or were injured and couldn't work?

If you think you would feel devastated or if you think you would feel relief, then you have a worth ethic.

The question becomes,

If our worth doesn't come from what we do, where does it come from?

It's a question that we all wrestle with.


Our deepest fear is that we aren't worthy enough to be loved.

So let's settle this once and for all.

We all FEEL unworthy at times.


Because every one of us has a brain that tells us we are.

It's the job of our very well-intentioned (if somewhat misguided) brain to protect us.

Each of us has a hardwired brain to tell us that we are not enough to prevent us from doing anything that it considers risky, hard, or just plain uncomfortable.


Our job is to simply understand how our brain works and then lovingly tell it the truth.


We each have inherent value simply because we are alive.

We were created to live and to love and to do it in our own unique way.

Your identity, value, worth is not defined by what you do or don't do.

All of our imperfect, broken, beautiful humanity belongs.

When the question of worthiness has been answered, you can begin to live your life from a place of freedom and love, and hard just doesn't seem as hard anymore.

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