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  • Writer's pictureMarcy Kocher

How to Stay Young

Updated: Nov 4, 2022

What do you want?

It’s often a difficult question to answer.

When we’re kids, we know exactly what we want because we’re future-focused.

We can’t wait to go to school, drive a car, get a job, graduate, get a better job, get married, buy a house, have a family, take the family on vacation, etc.

Around middle age, the wants slow down.

Now we’re overwhelmed with maintaining all the wants we’ve created.

It can feel heavy and hard, and we forget the joy and ease of wanting.

The feeling of joy and ease is what overrides the challenges of accomplishment.

The feeling of heavy and hard keeps us stuck and stagnant and convinces us we are content with our life as it is.

But are you?

What if you could have more?

What if it didn’t have to be hard or take too much time or money, or energy?

Try making a list of 25 wants.

It might feel hard at first, but once you start, it’s hard to stop.

What are you interested in?

What do you want to learn?

Where do you want to go?

What kind of relationships do you want?

What kind of things do you want?

What do you want to contribute to the world?

How do you want to feel?


Be very specific. This reminds us of who we are.

Don’t worry about the how. Just brainstorm. Just dream.

Let your brain know there is so much more available.

Open up to possibility. This should be fun and feel good.

No judgments allowed.

Notice if your brain is telling you you shouldn’t want it or you should be content with what you have, or all the reasons why it isn’t possible.

That’s okay; nothing has gone wrong. It’s just your brain trying to protect you.


We do this naturally as children, but as we grow older, we forget how to dream.

Dreaming helps your brain get into a creative space, which helps you figure out the next step.

The first step is knowing where you want to go and why.

The second step is feeling good about it.

The third step is figuring out the how from the GOOD feelings.

When you are in peace, the how will flow easily, one step at a time.

The problem is your brain wants to keep you in fear, and fear keeps you stuck.

My job is to teach you how to create safety for your brain so it can work FOR you instead of AGAINST you.

My job is to teach you how to create calm, no matter the circumstances.

My job is to teach you how your brain works so you can be the boss of yourself.

My job is to teach you how to take action to create the life of your dreams.


Dreaming keeps us moving forward.

Dreaming keeps us active, engaged, and energized.

Dreaming keeps us young.

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