Do you ever struggle with indecision? Overthink?
Stand and stare at the 72 choices of shampoo at Target for twenty minutes.
I confess. I tend to be an overthinker. An over researcher. A Procrastinator.
Deep down, I’m afraid I will make the “wrong” decision.
Indecision is driven by fear.
It’s a strategy your brain uses to keep you in inaction, to keep you stuck, to keep you where it thinks it will be safe.
Ultimately, it prevents you from moving forward and creating the life that you want.
Indecision also drains you of your valuable and limited mental energy.
It’s like having multiple programs running on your computer simultaneously.
It’s draining and exhausting.
Alternatively, making decisions can create time and energy and move you forward.
Wouldn’t it be nice to have a process to help us make decisions?
Here’s what I teach my clients:
First of all, there is rarely a perfect decision.
We believe there is, and we’re afraid of making the “wrong” one.
But most decisions will have some good and some bad consequences to them.
Do you find yourself going round and round saying, on the one hand... and the other hand...
The answer to that is to stop putting your trust in the decision.
If we learn to put our trust in ourselves, we can make what we think is the best decision and then trust ourselves to respond to all outcomes in a capable way.
Knowing that no matter what happens, you will show up and make the best of it takes so much pressure off making the “right” decision.
What if there aren't right decisions? There are just decisions you make right.
· Write down all the pros and cons.
· Go through each one and ask yourself if it’s coming from love or fear.
· Never make a decision based on fear.
What do you want?
Do you like those reasons?
If yes, put your trust in YOU and go all in.
You can always evaluate and make a new decision.
It’s how we learn, how we grow, and how we move forward.