Last week, we talked about choices.
Life is all about choices.
Choice leads to freedom, and freedom leads to joy.
Remember, we ALWAYS have a choice.
Even if it’s how we choose to think and feel about a circumstance that we have no control over.
But with choice comes decisions.
Decisions are important.
Our current life results are a culmination of all our decisions.
Our decisions create our lives.
Decision making is a skill that helps us take ownership of our lives, experiences, and happiness.
Our happiness is our responsibility and no one else’s, especially during the holidays.
This isn’t as easy as it sounds.
Many of us get stuck in indecision.
We don’t want to hurt people's feelings.
We don’t want to let people down.
We’re afraid of what people will think.
And we’re afraid of making the wrong decision.
And so, we allow the decision to be made for us, which often means spending too much time, energy, and money doing things we don’t want to do.
Which leads to feeling resentment, stress, overwhelm, and exhaustion.
That doesn’t sound like a joyous holiday season to me.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been there, but each year gets better and better as I learn to practice intentional decision-making.
Now is the time to make holiday decisions.
Before you get hit with the pressure of busyness, sit down, and make a list of all the decisions to be made.
If we want to be intentional and create a season we enjoy we need to make decisions now.
What kind of decisions?
Money, time, and who to spend it with.
How much, on what, and for whom?
Do you want to entertain? How and for whom?
Do you want to be entertained? How, what, where?
Gifts? Who? What? How much?
Food? What kind? How much?
Travel or stay home?
Traditions? What to keep, what to start, and why?
Social obligations? What to do and why?
What do you love? What would you rather not do?
Who do you definitely want to spend time with, and who would you rather not?
And what are you willing to do because you like your reasons?
Sit down with your loved ones and have conversations about these things.
It’s okay to question what you’ve always done.
Questioning is a sign of intelligence and leads to growth and greater happiness.
Open up to choices, decisions, and possibilities.
You may be thinking, what if you make a wrong decision?
But what if there aren’t any wrong decisions?
What if there are only decisions you make right?
This is the process:
Ask yourself, what do you want and Why?
Do you like those reasons?
If yes, put your trust in yourself and go all in.
Have your back by trusting yourself, don’t second guess, be kind, and give yourself lots of self-compassion and encouragement.
You can always evaluate and make a new decision.
It’s how we learn, how we grow, and how we move forward.
Making decisions now will give you peace and joy later.