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  • Writer's pictureMarcy Kocher

Are you a people pleaser?

Are you a people pleaser?

I am.

I have been for as long as I can remember. I do things to please people so they will like me, think nice thoughts about me, say nice things about me.

Note with "love yourself" on it

It’s really kind of selfish. It appears as if I’m really thoughtful and kind, and I know I am, but when I’m people pleasing it’s coming from a place of fear. Fear that I’m not good enough, worthy enough. Fear always leads us into a needy, graspy place.

I’m trying to find love and validation outside of myself. I’m depending on others to tell me that I’m okay. It looks like I’m giving but I’m actually trying to get you to meet my deep need to be loved and accepted.

It’s impossible and it’s exhausting.

I know I’m human and I’m a work in progress. I’m learning that this happens when I live my life unconsciously.

Consciously, I know that creating a life of passion, purpose and peace comes from the inside out.

The answer to people pleasing is loving and accepting MYSELF fiercely.

When I meet my need for love I can show up in life as more myself - not who I think others want me to be.

That’s when I create truly loving relationships.

How can other people really love me if they don’t know the real me?

What about you?

Are you looking to others to meet your need for love and acceptance?

Are you aware of your thoughts about you? They are so important. Your thoughts and feelings about you created the life that you are currently living and they will create your future.


It’s worth investigating. YOU are worth investigating. YOU are worth all the love and abundance that this life has to offer and I’m discovering that it is boundless.

As a Life Coach, I help my clients find blocks like people pleasing, learn how to love themselves and unlock their ability to create the life of their dreams. Discover yourself by contacting me and request a free one hour session. You are worth it.

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