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  • Marcy Kocher

How to Make Decisions

Do you ever struggle with Indecision? 




Do you stand and stare at the 72 choices of shampoo at Target for twenty minutes? 


I confess I tend to be an overthinker, an overresearcher, and a procrastinator. 


All because I’m afraid I will make the “wrong” decision. 


Indecision is driven by fear. 


It’s a strategy your brain uses to keep you in inaction, keep you stuck, and keep you where it thinks you’ll be safe. 


And ultimately, it prevents you from moving forward and creating the life you want. 


Indecision also drains you of your limited and valuable mental energy. 


It’s like having multiple programs running on your computer simultaneously. 


It can feel exhausting.

Alternatively, making decisions can create energy and move us forward. 


Wouldn’t it be nice to have a process to help us make decisions? 


Here’s what I teach my clients:


First of all, be aware that there is rarely a perfect decision. 


We believe there is, and that’s why we’re so afraid of making the “wrong” one. 


However, most decisions have both good and bad consequences. 


Do you find yourself saying things like, on the one hand... and on the other hand...


Of course, that’s how it works.


Your brain is working really hard to protect you by making the “right” decision or no decision at all. 


The answer to that is to stop putting your trust in the decision.


If we learn to trust ourselves, we can make what we think is the best decision and then trust ourselves to respond to all outcomes in a reliable way.


Knowing that no matter what happens, you will show up and make the best of it takes a lot of pressure off making the “right” decision.


Consider thinking about it this way:


What if there isn’t a right decision? 


What if there are just decisions that you make, right?


Game changer


Try this:


  • Write down all the pros and cons.

  • Go through each one and ask yourself if it’s coming from love or fear.

  • Never make a decision based on fear.

Or ask yourself,  what do you want? 




Do you like those reasons? 


If yes, put your trust in yourself and go all in. 


You can always evaluate and make a new decision if needed.


It’s how we learn, how we grow, and how we move forward. 

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